By Dr. Dot
http://drdot.com/

Many people write to me and ask this question: “How can I preserve passion, you know, keep it hot?”

Here are 10 tips for women on how to keep it HOT. Next week I’ll have 10 tips for men.

1) MAKE DISTANCE. If you live together, get very busy. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and if you see each other too much, sex and love will get boring and tedious. If you don’t live together, only meet two or at the most three times a week and try to limit sex to two times a week, so it will be wild hungry sex. Even if he begs for it, only give it to him twice a week. Like they say, a half-fed dog is best behaved. And people want what they can’t have.

2) GIVE HIM COMPLIMENTS. Men also need compliments. This will make him feel good, and treat you better. Tell him how big his balls are, and how crazy you are about his cock.

3) PHONE SEX. Even if you live together, when he calls you (don’t call him often, let him pursue you) tell him what you want to do to him the next time you two are alone—cook up a hot fantasy for him to look forward to. Tell him on the phone that you are wearing stockings and playing with yourself. Make him wild for you.

4) ORAL SEX. Men love blow jobs. If you feel your sex life getting boring, suck on him; bathe him with your tongue for at least 20 minutes straight. That should shake things up. No sex life can be boring if there is enough oral sex going around. Men need blow jobs!

5) PORNO. Men love porn. If you won’t watch with him, he will do it alone. You suggest, “Hey honey, wanna rent a porno tonight?” He will go crazy! Then you two can get really naughty together. Just make sure it isn’t every time you are intimate together, or this, too, will get boring.

6) NEW UNDERWEAR. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Men don’t give a shit about the price or quality. They just love the “new wrapping paper”on their favorite present (your pussy). Get creative with colored underwear, buy blue stockings with a pink garter belt, and then wear a yellow bra. Be ballsy, use your imagination. (Most men cheat out of boredom, so keep him guessing—what will she have on next?—and he may stick around) Save any ugly underwear for period days or when you know for sure you won’t see him.

7) HUMOR. Men really love a woman who likes to laugh and who makes them laugh. It’s important, so try to cheer up and be a good sport. Make sex fun; don’t be too serious. Please remember that men are not as verbal as us gals, so don’t talk somuch. With words, make it's quality not quantity. Save all that chatter for your girlfriends. (Note: Men tell me every day how much they hate chatty girls).

8) ADVENTURE. Why have sex only at your place or his place? We only live once, so drag him into a sex shop that has those wank booths, and do it in one while watching a porno; or do it in a car, bathroom or elevator. Men need adventure; the risk of getting caught will spice things up. If you are too scared to do it in public, then do it on the kitchen table or balcony—anywhere but in the bed room all the time.

9) MASSAGE. Give him a shoulder and back massage and he will melt for you. Low lights, warm oil, sexy music (Billie Holiday, Portishead or Jimi Hendrix for your wild side) and take a lot of time to spoil his whole body. This should turn him on big time. (By the way, let him initiate the sex most of the time. Men like to be the hunter.)

10) STRIP FOR HIM. Even if you are shy, men love to see your whole body (perfect or not) and doing a naughty dance for him while you strip will give him an image he will save in his “wank bank” for ages. You don’t have to announce “Tonight I will strip for you,” just come to him and slowly dance and take off one piece of clothing at a time, and don’t let him touch you, just tell him to relax and watch (he can touch himself, but not you). He will explode.

Touch yourself while dancing, bend over and use mirrors to let him have more than one way to watch. Remember, it’s all visual for men. Let them watch.