By Dr. Dot
drdot@drdot.com
www.puredrdot.com

 My husband turns 42 this year, and he’s become a very insecure person. He was never this insecure, withdrawn, needy and high strung. We have sex five times a week, sometimes twice a day. He brings up my first long-term relationship constantly—it was 23 years ago when I was only 17 and lasted 2 years. It was hell, we hardly saw each other and all we did was fight. I chose to forget about it a long time ago, but my husband keeps bringing it up because the guy took my virginity so he thinks it was memorable. It wasn’t—I was basically forced. You put yourself in stupid situations at that age. I don’t think there are too many women out there who say what a beautiful experience losing their virginity was (I am sure there are some, but not the majority). My question is, how do I get my husband of 17 years to get past this? Or is it something I have to live with? Should I let him go, and maybe he can find himself a “memorable” virgin to deflower? I don’t want him to tear me down until I feel tainted. I don’t know how much more of this I can take. Please advise!

—Tainted Tammy

Your husband gets sex more than five times a week, even after 17 years of marriage (this must be a world record), and yet he is somehow “insecure, withdrawn, needy, and high strung”? What a spoiled prick. Men are on their best behavior when they want to be fed. Keep his “bowl” half full—in other words, keep him hungry for you and he may be a bit nicer. Your hubby feels so powerful that he picks on you about something that happened decades ago. Ask him, “Are you that fucking bored?” Tell him you are done talking about the past and it’s killing your sex drive to the point where you don’t want to fuck him anymore, let alone several times a week. He is probably unhappy about other things, like turning 42, and no matter how much pussy he gets, it won’t make him happy. Only he can make himself happy. So stop trying so hard to please him—you are only making it worse. Sometimes when people are miserable, they actually resent folks being too nice to them as they subconsciously feel they don’t deserve it. And he doesn’t deserve all that pussy if he is being a wanker. Good luck with that. I would tell him to be nice and drop the past or move the fuck on, as he obviously doesn’t know how good he has it.


I have a girlfriend whom I love very much, and she loves me very much. Making love is unbelievable; we both have a great connection and we both orgasm together 80 percent of the time. But it seems like every time she is on top of me, I can’t seem to hold an erection for more than 5 minutes. In fact, I switch positions right away when I feel myself losing my erection. I have never before had this problem with other women. One thing I noticed is that she gets very wet and usually cums two to three times, and literally drips gulps of fluid. Do you think it’s her fluid that is making me lose my erection?

—Wet Willy

You say it never happened with other women, so it could be her dripping wet pussy gets too loose or relaxed to keep your cock hard. It is a compliment that she gets so wet, so be sure not to whine about it. Just take your hand from time to time and wipe her pussy (ask her to lift up for a second and wipe her). Your dry (clean) hand will take enough excess fluid away to regain some resistance, which you surely lose when it gets so slippery (hence, no more stiffy). If your hand isn’t enough, then you should keep a clean, soft rag around to sop up her juice from time to time. Mop that baby up and keep going, as a juicy girl is good thing.


I recently found out that my extremely attractive wife (we wed one year ago) has been working for an online, sexy web cam chat thingy. One of my workmates found her, and actually paid her for a chat (he claims he was just checking to make sure it wasn’t full nudity—it’s only topless). My wife and I had a giant argument about this, but she doesn’t see anything wrong with it. I want her to quit. I feel World War III coming—please answer fast.

—Nervous Nate

You can’t force her to stop, so try to think positively. Those girls can earn loads of cash, they never meet the men they chat with, and it’s good for her ego—getting told she looks good will boost her confidence and sex drive. Plus, she is obviously grooming herself well, so she will stay looking hot for you too. Women do these things for two reasons: One, not enough income, and two, they like to be admired and looked at. It could be worse: She could be stripping in a club where men can meet her and maybe even touch her. So count your blessings, your double income, and be happy you married such a sex bomb, you lucky bastard.