A few years ago, my wife was attacked and robbed in the bar where she worked. She and the manager were stripped and left bound and gagged for hours until they were able to work themselves free. She said she was “fondled slightly” by the criminal, who she has described as “not unattractive.” She says it could have led to rape, although it didn’t. But the probability of it kept her wet! Ever since, she constantly refers to that incident during our lovemaking. She admitted almost from the day it happened that she was aroused by the entire thing and masturbates while thinking about it. She says she comes the hardest while thinking about the ordeal while we screw. Now she wants me to tie her up and re-create it. I refused. She now calls it an “erotic encounter!” It was a crime, not an encounter or a fantasy, and it makes me very upset. How can something like this be arousing? I’m concerned that she has some type of personality disorder.
-Disgusted Dan
It’s common for people to find a sexual way to look at drama in order to digest and deal with it. Had your wife been violently hurt and still wanking over it, then perhaps she’d have a screw loose. But if she was just stripped, gagged and fondled, perhaps that turned her on. Imagine if you were stripped and gagged by a hot female thief? Try to put yourself in her shoes. If this is the only thing that makes you think she could be nuts, I’d let it slide. She sounds like she’s just a pervert in bed, and lord knows there are loads of those around. There’s no way to change her way of thinking, and the more you tell her it’s sick or wrong, the more forbidden and naughty it will be to her. Why not tie her up once and act it out—just to shut her up and make her fantasy finally come true. Even people who have never been raped sometimes act out the fantasy in the bedroom. Try it once, then tell her later that you’re getting bored reliving her “encounter,” and you want to play out one of your fantasies now. And don’t sugarcoat it either. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.
I have a perfect BF who treats me great, but I have taken advantage of the situation. For the last few months, I have been a vicious shrew to him. I said some really cruel stuff that I didn’t mean! He’s still with me, but the twinkle in his eye is gone, and I can sense he’s lost his confidence. He used to be so funny and full of life. To make things worse, the hot bartender at our drinking hole has noticed our relationship sinking, and now she flirts with him in her slutty clothes. He goes there on his own sometimes, and I’m worried. What can I do to stamp my mark on him again? She wasn’t sniffing around before, when things were perfect. I care about him and want to make it up to him. How can I get him back to his normal self, and why did I act like that?
-Flirting with Disaster
Don’t worry about “getting him back to his normal self,” you need to get back to normal. Sometimes we use our partner/lover as a whipping post. We forget that only our parents have to love us, anyone else can (and will) walk away if you treat them badly. Think hard about your habits and routines and see if you can find anything that is contributing to your bitchy behavior. Some people get too cozy when they’re being treated well. They start to get high off of the power of having the upper hand in the relationship, and they just take advantage, like you did.
Write him an honest letter. Keep it short and sweet, and tell him you’re embarrassed for being so nasty and ask him if there’s anything you can do to make it up to him. Don’t go overboard though. Massage him, give him loads of oral and let him do most of the talking for a while. When he reaches out, be there, be kind and if you two are meant to stay together, things will be like they used to be.
Now about the hot vulture: Never mention her to him and vice versa! Start giving him amazing, really long blow jobs. Sit him naked on the corner of a bed, kneel down on a pillow, naked on the floor in front of him, make sure there is a mirror in back of you, so he can see you from behind while you blow him and lick his balls. I doubt going to a bar would be on his mind after this.
I’ve been dating a guy for three weeks now, and he keeps talking about his ex. He’s shown me many pictures of her, some nude ones as well, and she’s fucking gorgeous. It makes me feel inadequate. Now that I think back, most of the men I have dated have pulled this shit. I am always polite and give compliments, but inside I want to (a) rip up the cunt’s picture (b) knee the guy in the balls for showing it to me. How can I stop such ignorant behavior without coming across as insecure or bitchy?
-Sick of it all Sally
It’s ridiculously easy to get pictures of giant cocks online. Find a picture of the biggest cock you can find: Hell, most guys who have monster cocks are happy to send them to any curious female (or male for that matter). Save it on your computer and when your guy shows you pictures of his hot ex-girlfriend, show him the monster cock and say “Well, this is the only picture I saved of Dan.” That will shut him the fuck up.
-Disgusted Dan
It’s common for people to find a sexual way to look at drama in order to digest and deal with it. Had your wife been violently hurt and still wanking over it, then perhaps she’d have a screw loose. But if she was just stripped, gagged and fondled, perhaps that turned her on. Imagine if you were stripped and gagged by a hot female thief? Try to put yourself in her shoes. If this is the only thing that makes you think she could be nuts, I’d let it slide. She sounds like she’s just a pervert in bed, and lord knows there are loads of those around. There’s no way to change her way of thinking, and the more you tell her it’s sick or wrong, the more forbidden and naughty it will be to her. Why not tie her up once and act it out—just to shut her up and make her fantasy finally come true. Even people who have never been raped sometimes act out the fantasy in the bedroom. Try it once, then tell her later that you’re getting bored reliving her “encounter,” and you want to play out one of your fantasies now. And don’t sugarcoat it either. If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.
I have a perfect BF who treats me great, but I have taken advantage of the situation. For the last few months, I have been a vicious shrew to him. I said some really cruel stuff that I didn’t mean! He’s still with me, but the twinkle in his eye is gone, and I can sense he’s lost his confidence. He used to be so funny and full of life. To make things worse, the hot bartender at our drinking hole has noticed our relationship sinking, and now she flirts with him in her slutty clothes. He goes there on his own sometimes, and I’m worried. What can I do to stamp my mark on him again? She wasn’t sniffing around before, when things were perfect. I care about him and want to make it up to him. How can I get him back to his normal self, and why did I act like that?
-Flirting with Disaster
Don’t worry about “getting him back to his normal self,” you need to get back to normal. Sometimes we use our partner/lover as a whipping post. We forget that only our parents have to love us, anyone else can (and will) walk away if you treat them badly. Think hard about your habits and routines and see if you can find anything that is contributing to your bitchy behavior. Some people get too cozy when they’re being treated well. They start to get high off of the power of having the upper hand in the relationship, and they just take advantage, like you did.
Write him an honest letter. Keep it short and sweet, and tell him you’re embarrassed for being so nasty and ask him if there’s anything you can do to make it up to him. Don’t go overboard though. Massage him, give him loads of oral and let him do most of the talking for a while. When he reaches out, be there, be kind and if you two are meant to stay together, things will be like they used to be.
Now about the hot vulture: Never mention her to him and vice versa! Start giving him amazing, really long blow jobs. Sit him naked on the corner of a bed, kneel down on a pillow, naked on the floor in front of him, make sure there is a mirror in back of you, so he can see you from behind while you blow him and lick his balls. I doubt going to a bar would be on his mind after this.
I’ve been dating a guy for three weeks now, and he keeps talking about his ex. He’s shown me many pictures of her, some nude ones as well, and she’s fucking gorgeous. It makes me feel inadequate. Now that I think back, most of the men I have dated have pulled this shit. I am always polite and give compliments, but inside I want to (a) rip up the cunt’s picture (b) knee the guy in the balls for showing it to me. How can I stop such ignorant behavior without coming across as insecure or bitchy?
-Sick of it all Sally
It’s ridiculously easy to get pictures of giant cocks online. Find a picture of the biggest cock you can find: Hell, most guys who have monster cocks are happy to send them to any curious female (or male for that matter). Save it on your computer and when your guy shows you pictures of his hot ex-girlfriend, show him the monster cock and say “Well, this is the only picture I saved of Dan.” That will shut him the fuck up.
