That part was left out in her email to me—I didn’t know she was lying about her past. But the past is the past and I totally frown upon the idea of digging up one’s “skeletons,” unless there’s children involved. Since you were abused in the past, honesty and purity must be extra important to you; thus, her blurry past is eating you alive. Take her for a walk and have her tell you the whole freakin’ story once and for all. Say, “Tell me the truth and I shall drop it forever!” Let her vent and keep your word, just let it slide, otherwise it will just be a constant annoyance and it will drive you both apart. If you love each other and want to stay together, you need to clear this shit up. She said you were “depressed and not the same anymore.” Why not tell her why? You have to communicate or it won’t work. Just because you weren’t the first guy in your woman, doesn’t mean she isn’t pure. She has been with you for years and she has sex with you very often; that shows that her love for you is pure. You can’t beat that. Let the past die, it’s over and done with, and know that we all make mistakes. (Note: the wife has since written saying they’ve cleared everything up and are now as happy as clams in water.)

Some men cheat, so do some women, but there are those who are satisfied with what they have. The way you described your husband made it sound like he initiated the marriage and pregnancy, so you really don’t have to worry. Had you trapped him in a marriage due to an “accidental” pregnancy, well, then it would be a whole different situation. Your sex drive and confidence will keep everyone happy. Worrying while pregnant isn’t good for the baby at all, and it’s pointless to stress about something that hasn’t happened. So just breathe deeply and enjoy your bun in the oven and the hot baker who helped make it.