DR. DOT
By Dr. Dot
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I’m in my early thirties, and I’ve been messing around with this MILF for the last month—really she’s more like a GILF, because she’ll be 60 in a few months. We rarely use protection, and she recently informed me that she might be pregnant. I have a lot of problems with that, but one of the questions that pops in my mind is, isn’t she too old to conceive a child? I mean how likely is it that a woman her age can get pregnant? Aren’t her eggs to old?
—Granny Shagger
It’s about as likely as finding a snowball in hell. I think she may be enjoying a bit of wishful thinking. Some Hollywood stars have gotten pregnant nearing age 50 (Geena Davis or Marcia Cross for example) but it’s because they’re usually artificially inseminated with someone else’s egg that’s been fertilized. But this procedure costs an enormous chunk of change that I doubt your horny GILF has stashed in her coffee can. Once a woman stops having her period, she can’t get pregnant anymore. Have you ever asked her about her period? Don’t panic just yet.
It’s been a year since my lady of 15 years dumped me and moved away. I can’t move on! I’ve tried everything: riding my bike, making art, fixing up my place, going to shows, drinking so much I fucked up my liver (I’m sober now). I can’t sleep; sometimes I’m up for three days straight even though I exercise and take sleeping pills. I’m a normal, horny, straight 36-year-old with modest needs, but I can’t seem to meet anybody or get back in the saddle. My roommate is gay and has offered to set me, but I’m hetero. It’s been 15 years! I don’t know how to talk to women anymore. I’m confused, lonely and have lost my will to live. Should I focus on work and just chill? I know this column is usually for sex talk and such, but I was hoping you might have advice on matters of the heart. How can I just say “Fuck it!” and move on?
—Buried Alive in the Blues
I feel you, but we all have to have our heart broken once and break someone’s heart once in order for love to really work out. We’ve all been there, where life doesn’t seem worth living anymore and no one else can compare. The good news is, life does go one and time does heal all wounds. Go on and have a good long cry. Write down the good and the bad things about her, then tear it up and throw it away. If you’re happy in your job and where you live, your body and health should be your main focus. If you hate your job and your home, maybe it’s time for a whole new life—a big change. You are still younger than Brad Pitt for fuck’s sake. Stop wallowing in your self-pity; we have all had this shit happen to us. There are people all over the world with worse problems. Concentrate on the positive things—like your age, health, freedom, etc. Try not to listen to your gay roommate; most gays aren’t specialists on giving a hetero man pep talks on how to meet women! They prefer to try and convince you to turn gay instead. Don’t try to forget her, just remember the good times and learn from any mistakes that were made. Listen to some Frank Zappa, and he will help you see it’s not such a big deal, particularly the song “Broken Hearts are for Assholes.” This will shed some light on the subject and help you move on with a smile.
I met a guy—he‘s cool, smart and wicked hot—but my friend said I shouldn’t go out with him because he’s a redhead. She’s told me a lot of rumors about them and says they are more promiscuous and have a wild temper. She also said that they are extremely stubborn. She had a redhead who was a good kisser but he was always in trouble and was unpredictable and crazy. So far this guy has been pretty cool, but what my friend said is bothering me. He does have an interesting personality—he is either loud and entertaining or really quiet, and it changes on a dime. I like that about him, but does it mean he’s insane? Or is my friend trying to sabotage me? She seems to like him as well.
—Riding Little Red in the Hood
She’s had “a” redhead and now she’s an expert? And since when is “unpredictable” a bad trait? Do you want a boring, predictable pushover that follows a certain routine? Perhaps you should get a cat, not a man. Redheads tend to have a temper due to all the harassment they get at school for being different, but it’s shallow and ignorant to say they are more promiscuous than blond or brunette men. That’s like saying blondes are stupid. I say try him out and tell your friend to calm the fuck down. Besides, all that pentup frustration and temper comes out nicely in bed.