Lust Life: A Matter of Size
“There’s more…?” I exhaled in between thrusts. I knew he was big, but it had been a while since we locked loins. As I felt comfortably full, I thought everything was there, but no, there was more, a lot more. Slowly, he made his way in, and to my surprise, it wasn’t as uncomfortable as I remembered. It was akin to working out again after a long absence from the gym—it doesn’t matter that you wake up sore the next day because you know you’ve done your body good.
Although sex is one of my preferred forms of exercise, and I can appreciate a big juicy sausage as much as the next girl, I can’t say that a huge penis is generally good for my body. Sorry all you hopeful 12-inch readers, but I’ll usually pass on the phallus enormous, as I will on the 40-pound weights. A magnum willy is impressive, aesthetically, whether it’s in a film or hanging a few inches in front of me, but to have it crammed into the 4-inch cavity between my legs is not something I fantasize about.A major part of the insecurity men feel about their penises is connected to the myth that women unanimously believe “the bigger, the better.” Sure there are size queens, but most women are content with an average-sized cock. Take it from sex educator Ducky Doolittle, who worked several years at LES sex-toy store Babeland: “Your average person [customer] wanted something around 7 inches and the average guy is 5 to 6 inches long. You do the math.” Once it’s inside, what difference does an inch or two make? Hear this, guys: In at least one area of life, average is good.In spite of this information, penis size continues to reign as the foundation of male politics. Boys learn to “size each other up” at a young age. As they mature, phallic imagery and penis jokes in the media perpetuate the idea that the guy with the bigger cock is the bigger man, not just in the sack, but also in every respect—the big John is smarter, stronger, sexier. If a guy does something considered weak or unmanly, it is assumed he has a small penis. The same goes for men who are assholes or control freaks: He’s compensating for his lack of largeness in other areas, namely, that area in front of his balls. In our culture, Homo Sapiens have evolved from survival of the fittest to survival of the biggest.Both men and women are guilty of these assumptions. And we feel guilty, too. Why else would we say (ever so insincerely), “It’s not the size of the boat that counts, it’s the motion of the ocean” and “It doesn’t matter how big it is, it’s how you use it”? But the truth is, size does matter. No wonder so many men have a cock complex.In my experience, if it’s too big, itdoesn’t feel good. I feel like a virgin again, and I don’t mean that in a positive, Madonna sense—sex with a mammoth porn pecker is painful, uncomfortable at best. My friend points out another problem, “All muscles have memory, and a big penis is a commitment…they can stretch you outand ruin you for all other encounters…” On the other end of the ruler, I have yet to have a satisfying experience with a super small penis…it feels like nothing is there. These are physical issues; by no means do I intend to judge a guy by the size of his equipment. Truthfully, I have great sympathy for men who are either too big or too small for most women. I can only imagine what it must be like to consistently not be able to make it all the way inside, or to face the question, “Are you in yet?” when you are.When addressing the question, “Does size matter?” the question “What is big?” naturally follows suit. It seems that for most women, girth is more important than length. A girl can feel full with a5-inch penis if it has the right thickness, whereas a 7-inch skinny one won’t seem as “big.” What about shape? Writer / actress Angela Lovell says, “It’s the head that really matters since that’s what catches my G-spot as it moves in and out.” Are you a grower, not a shower? Size can often be deceiving, as it is relative. A tiny member could be just the right thing for a tight ass. And for every king of cocks is a queen willing to swallow him whole.As with anything in life, the key to success is to focus on what you have. And master your oral skills—I’ll take the 4-inch pussy-licking genius over the 12-inch tongue-tied Tom any day.